Can God Save My Marriage?

Christian marriages are experiencing divorce rates as high as secular marriages. You may not be a religious person, but have uttered these words as a prayer..."God can you save my marriage?"

The divorce rate in America for the first marriage is 41%, the divorce rate for the second marriage is even higher, 60%, and the divorce rate for the third marriage is higher yet, at a whopping 73%!

Once can almost feel, why bother getting married at all, with such bad odds? Nevertheless, incurable romantics get married every day, hoping they will not become a statistic.

The first thing you must know is that God loves you and that though you are suffering, He has not abandoned or forgotten you or your family.

I do not speak as a professional marriage counselor, but as someone who knows restoration is possible. I understand how lack of communication can erode a relationship and I understand the pain of betrayal. I know what it is like to cry out to God for the answers I needed to be whole again.

I have often heard that your marriage can not be saved, unless both people want it. I have not found that not to be true in my case. I believe that God will work with the party who is willing to submit himself to Him. Work on me you may say? They are the one who is messing up!

I know it is a little difficult to hear when your are hurting, but a marriage does not break down by itself.often both parties have played a part in its demise.

You see, it is easier to hold resentment and unforgiveness when you feel that you have done no wrong.As you seek the face of God, He will shine His light on your heart and your own sin.

The Spirit of God will gently point out areas where you have failed and as He shows you, don't argue, but say, "yes Lord," and repent. When your eyes are opened to your own faults, it is a little easier to understand the failure of your partner.

I do not say that God allowed problems in your marriage, but He will take what the enemy sent for evil and use it for your good. God wants to get your attention and God wants to have your heart completely. Once you have presented your whole heart to the Father, then He will begin with you.

Allow Him to removed anything that has hindered your walk with him, He will begin to cleanse, renew you and give you new strength. Now you have an open line to pray for your spouse. Many men and woman who have stood in the gap for their spouses have come out true prayer warriors. Allow the Spirit of God to use this situation to perfect your faith in Him.

You are in a warfare not just for your marriage, but for your spouse. The enemy will always try to use one to destroy the other. Your spouse is not the real enemy...

Ephesians 6:12 our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

You are coming against an unseen enemy who has blinded the eyes of your spouse. As you pray, ask the Lord to show you the spirits that are attacking your loved one. Is is adultery, addiction, abuse, rejection or mental illness? As you recognized each spirit, begin to bind them and in the name of Jesus command those stronghold to be pulled down.

Ask another Christian who you know, has a strong prayer life, to come in agreement with you in prayer. Two are better than one. Do not share your problem with anyone who does not have a prayer life and do not share your problem with anyone who tends to gossip. Your prayers will be powerful as you come before the Lord.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Love in not a feeling but it is a decision. You have made a decision to love this person through sickness and health. Love is a verb, and something that is to be demonstrated. You can not go by feeling, as feeling with change throughout a relationship. True love grows and matures, and with that maturity, true commitment and responsibility.

It is like faith. Faith without works is dead being alone. Faith is not faith, because you feel it, but it is faith because you can not see it or feel it. You have made a commitment to this person and that commitment must remain when you feel you love the person or not.

God commanded, "Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it" Do you see the sacrificial love has for us? This is the sacrificial love each man should have for his wife. That sacrificial love stays though you have gained 30 pounds, I will stay true to you. I will learn who you are, so that I can effectively minister to your.

1Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

If men realized what a great responsibility they have to love and understand his wife, they would not be so quick to marry. This is God's command to husbands.

You will find that if you remain firm and don't seek love somewhere else, if you begin to nurture your your wife and seek to know her, love will bloom again, but it will take your full commitment.

No woman can resist a man who truly loves and understands her; then submission will become automatic.

I do not know what the end will be for you, or you marriage. If you ask me, can God save your marriage, I will tell you yes, He can.

God has left us with a wonderful promise, that will bring great comfort to those who believe it. Seek His face, and when all else seems to fail, you will find Him.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.